{"id":3075,"date":"2021-11-04T15:36:00","date_gmt":"2021-11-04T12:36:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/?p=3075"},"modified":"2021-11-12T15:37:01","modified_gmt":"2021-11-12T12:37:01","slug":"iliskilerde-ne-yapmali-ne-yapmamali","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/iliskilerde-ne-yapmali-ne-yapmamali","title":{"rendered":"\u0130li\u015fkilerde ne yapmal\u0131, ne yapmamal\u0131?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Hepimiz g\u00fcndelik ya\u015fant\u0131m\u0131zda her an \u00e7evremizdeki insanlarla, di\u011fer canl\u0131larla ve e\u015fyalarla uzaktan veya yak\u0131ndan ili\u015fki halindeyiz. Bizlere mutluluk veya \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc veren de i\u015fte bu ili\u015fkilerdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Peki, ili\u015fkilerimizi en iyi hale getirmek i\u00e7in neler yapmam\u0131z gerekiyor?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu sorunun yan\u0131t\u0131n\u0131 konunun uzman\u0131ndan \u00f6\u011frenmek i\u00e7in ili\u015fki ko\u00e7u <a href=\"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/magaza\/oznitelik\/yazar\/adil-yildirim\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/magaza\/oznitelik\/yazar\/adil-yildirim\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Adil Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m<\/a>\u2019\u0131n <a href=\"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/magaza\/urun\/50-maddede-iliskiler\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/magaza\/urun\/50-maddede-iliskiler\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">50 Maddede \u0130li\u015fkiler<\/a> adl\u0131 kitab\u0131na bir g\u00f6z atal\u0131m dedik, bakal\u0131m ili\u015fkilerde ne yapmal\u0131 ne yapmamal\u0131y\u0131z\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4>\u0130deal ili\u015fki nedir?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"600\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/shutterstock_1249579819.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-3077\" srcset=\"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/shutterstock_1249579819.jpg 600w, https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/shutterstock_1249579819-300x150.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>\u015eunu akl\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131n: \u0130deal \u0130li\u015fki, yeri geldi\u011finde rahatl\u0131kla \u201chay\u0131r\u201d diyebildi\u011finiz ili\u015fkiye denir. E\u011fer bir insana \u015fu veya bu sebeple \u201chay\u0131r\u201d demekten \u00e7ekiniyor ve kendinizden \u00f6d\u00fcn veriyorsan\u0131z bu kesinlikle ideal bir ili\u015fki de\u011fildir \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc kendinizden feragat ettik\u00e7e \u00f6zbenli\u011finizle ili\u015fkiniz bozulur ve bu da ruhsal huzursuzluk yarat\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ona kar\u015f\u0131 anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 olun ancak asla kendinizden feragat etmeyin \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc en ba\u015fta kendi karakterinizle ili\u015fkinizi korumak zorundas\u0131n\u0131z, sizin \u00f6nceli\u011finiz kendinizi korumakt\u0131r ve bu kesinlikle bencillik de\u011fildir; ruhsal dengenizi korumak i\u00e7in bunu yapmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Kendisiyle bar\u0131\u015f\u0131k olmayan bir insan\u0131n ba\u015fka kimseye yard\u0131m\u0131 dokunmaz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Partnerinizin herhangi bir iste\u011fine \u201chay\u0131r\u201d demenize ra\u011fmen sizinle ili\u015fkisine devam ediyorsa ve sizi bir daha bu konuyu hat\u0131rlatmadan menfaatsiz ve kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z bir \u015fekilde seviyorsa i\u015fte bu ideal bir ili\u015fkidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4>\u0130li\u015fkilerde en b\u00fcy\u00fck yan\u0131lg\u0131 nedir?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/shutterstock_1212965599.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-3078\" srcset=\"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/shutterstock_1212965599.jpg 640w, https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/shutterstock_1212965599-300x169.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130li\u015fkilerdeki en b\u00fcy\u00fck yan\u0131lg\u0131y\u0131 \u015f\u00f6yle \u00f6zetleyebiliriz: Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki insan, asla ve asla, ne sizin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz kadar k\u00f6t\u00fcd\u00fcr ne de iyi. Zihninizi ve hayal g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc hesaba katarak en az y\u00fczde yirmi yan\u0131lma pay\u0131n\u0131z oldu\u011funu unutmay\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00d6te yandan insanlar\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck yan\u0131lg\u0131s\u0131, ba\u015fka insanlar\u0131n hayatlar\u0131n\u0131n harika gitti\u011fi ve mutlu olduklar\u0131 y\u00f6n\u00fcndeki d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerdir. \u00d6rne\u011fin; \u201cHerkes evlili\u011finde mutluyken ben niye sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ili\u015fkiye sahip de\u011filim?\u201d Di\u011fer insanlar\u0131n, kendisi d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndaki t\u00fcm d\u00fcnyan\u0131n problemsiz ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek ve bu \u015fekilde kendine kar\u015f\u0131 ac\u0131mas\u0131z davranmak, i\u00e7inde bir tutam mazo\u015fizm bar\u0131nd\u0131r \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00f6zsevgi eksikli\u011finin mutlaka derin sebepleri vard\u0131r. \u00d6te yandan bu kadar y\u00fcksek bo\u015fanma oranlar\u0131 varken, \u201cBenim ba\u015f\u0131ma asla gelmez!\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi de yine alg\u0131da meydana gelen en b\u00fcy\u00fck yan\u0131lg\u0131lardan biridir. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck yan\u0131lg\u0131s\u0131, kendisi d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndaki bireylerin ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6z\u00fcnde \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fctmesi ya da tamamen kendinden k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck g\u00f6rmesidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4>Do\u011fru insan\u0131 nerede bulabilirim?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"341\" src=\"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/shutterstock_1894361263-1024x341.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-3079\" srcset=\"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/shutterstock_1894361263-1024x341.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/shutterstock_1894361263-300x100.jpg 300w, https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/shutterstock_1894361263-768x256.jpg 768w, https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/shutterstock_1894361263.jpg 1500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Bir insan sabah sekizde evden i\u015fe gidip, \u00fcstelik i\u015fyerinde sosyal ili\u015fki kurabilece\u011fi kimse olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fcn kimseyle sohbet etmeden \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131ktan sonra, ak\u015fam alt\u0131da i\u015ften \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p eve d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde ili\u015fki -143- i\u00e7in ideal partneri nas\u0131l bulabilir? Bu partnerin ak\u015fam vakti aniden kap\u0131y\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131p, \u201cMerhaba, hani y\u0131llard\u0131r bekledi\u011fin do\u011fru insan vard\u0131 ya, i\u015fte o benim; ben geldim,\u201d demesi filmlerde bile imk\u00e2ns\u0131zd\u0131r<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ili\u015fki bulan insanlar\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck ortak \u00f6zellikleri, sosyal hayatta etkin olmalar\u0131 ve i\u015f d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndaki sosyal faaliyetlere hi\u00e7 \u00fc\u015fenmeden kat\u0131l\u0131m g\u00f6stermeleridir. Burada farkl\u0131 insanlarla tan\u0131\u015f\u0131p geni\u015f bir \u00e7evre edinirler. \u0130\u015f saatleri sonras\u0131nda kendini eve at\u0131p Netflix ile romantik bir ili\u015fki ya\u015fayan insanlar\u0131n sevgili bulduklar\u0131na pek \u015fahit olmad\u0131m. E\u011fer ger\u00e7ekten hayat\u0131n\u0131zda sizi anlayacak ve sizinle g\u00fczel vakit ge\u00e7irecek bir insan olmas\u0131n\u0131 istiyorsan\u0131z kendinize \u015funu sormal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z: \u201cBen onu bulmak i\u00e7in ne yap\u0131yorum?\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hepimizin akl\u0131nda ayn\u0131 soru: Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ili\u015fki i\u00e7in ne yapmal\u0131, ne yapmamal\u0131y\u0131z? Yan\u0131t\u0131 50 Maddede \u0130li\u015fkiler kitab\u0131nda arad\u0131k. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":3084,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[51],"tags":[186,188,185,187],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3075"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3075"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3075\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3085,"href":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3075\/revisions\/3085"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3084"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3075"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3075"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/destekdukkan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3075"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}